Workshops & Events
Grief Support Skills:
How to Effectively Support Others Who Grieve the Loss of a Pet
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8 hour Teleclass (four sessions of 2 hours each)
|DATES:||Available On Demand to take at your convenience|
$85 for 8 hours of digital audio recording and 89 pages of handouts.
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Teresa Wagner, M.S.
WHO SHOULD ATTEND:
|For some people, losing a beloved animal is one the most painful experiences of their lives. When we are attempting to help those who are struggling with the pain of grieving such a loss, it can be challenging to know whether we are saying or doing the most effective and supportive things.
This class is designed to help you build, refresh or reaffirm your abilities to effectively support others who grieve the loss of an animal loved one--to help them through their pain and healing process with both tender compassion and the use of specific skills. The class is appropriate for anyone who is exposed to people grieving the loss of their animals: animal communicators, veterinary professionals, animal shelter and rescue group workers, trainers and behaviorists, therapists, energy healers, as well as friends and family members who want to better support their loved ones who are grieving.
Read comments from past participants at end of this page.
Empathy is the language
CONTENT AND PURPOSE
In this four session class you will have an opportunity to:
- Learn how to care for yourself with energetic boundaries and protection, and raise your awareness of the ethics involved in providing grief support
- Understand grief from both a personal and an intellectual level
- Learn the core grief support skills of empathic inquiry and response, the appropriate use of self disclosure and spirituality when supporting grievers, the important dynamics of primary and secondary grievers, and specific do’s and don’ts known to help those who grieve
- Acquire access to a wide range of resources for both your own continuing learning and to pass onto clients
Effectively and lovingly offering support to someone through the challenge of grief can make a huge, positive difference in that person's healing journey. But learning how to effectively help others who grieve the loss of a pet requires far more than feeling sympathy. It also requires specific skills. When another being truly cares, understands, and acknowledges the depth of our loss, our path is lighter. When the truth of a painful and difficult loss is acknowledged, we know we are not alone. When we are understood, healing feels much more possible. Almost anyone seeing another in emotional pain wants to help. Yet, seeing or hearing someone in great anguish can also be overwhelming and intimidating. We may feel awkward or unsure about what to say or do. Sometimes in attempts to help, friends, family and even professional counselors, healers or authors impose their beliefs, thinking that their own paradigms of animal death and grief will be relevant and helpful to everyone. For grievers, this intentional or unconscious imposing gets in the way of them discovering for themselves what they believe or need, and what will work for them. It also often adds anger and frustration to an already stressful time of grief.
The most empowering things we can do to help grievers is to learn to be truly present with their suffering: to listen, not advise; to judiciously and gently suggest possibilities, not impose our beliefs as fact--and to do so only after offering enough empathy that it is clear to them that we understand and have listened to their story and their thought and feelings; to be with them as they find their own way, not judge, push or prod them in the way we think they should grow. To be truly present with someone's pain without feeling a need to fix it, reconcile it, or recoil from it is one of the most powerful gifts we can give another. It requires patience, discernment of what to say when, skills of empathic expression, and great respect for the wisdom of the other's soul. These delicate and subtle grief support skills can be learned and integrated into our practices as animal communicators, healers, veterinary professionals, shelter professionals and others who are with those who lose their beloved animals. This four session teleclass offers an introduction to these skills and ideas as well as an overview of the grief recovery process.
- Understanding energetic boundaries and energetic protection
- Why they important when working with people and animals in pain
- A chakra perspective of these issues
- Levels of Compassionate Response to Others' Pain
- The Whale's Lesson on Death
- Specific techniques and strategies to practice energetic protection
- Definitions of Loss, Grief, and Grief Healing
- Why Animal Loss is Different
- Personal Understanding of Grief:
- Intimate Self Awareness of our Motivation to Help and our Orientation as Helpers/Healers
- Intellectual Understanding of Grief:
- Principles of Healing Grief & Choices We Make in Response to Loss
- Fators Influencing Grief Responses
- Stages of Grief Theories
- Beyond Stages: A Model of Conscious Grief Healing:
- Proactive Pathways for Coping, Healing and Growing From Loss
- Disenfranchised Grief & Complicated Grief
SESSION 3: Core Skills of Grief Support Part I
- The Two Golden Rules of Grief Support
- Words That Heal: Empathic Inquiry and Response
- Defining Empathy: What it is and is not
- The Power of Empathic Inquiry: Gentle Questioning for Clarity
- The Power of Empathic Response: Active Listening
- Emotional Empathy Discrimination Exercises
- What is My Grief Support Style: Enmeshed? Empathic & Protected? Detached?
SESSION 4: Core Skills of Grief Support Part II
- The Role of Spiritual Beliefs and Paradigms in the Grief Support Process: Helpful or Hindrance?
- Appropriate Use of Self Disclosure
- Specific Do's and Don'ts Known to Help Grievers
- Understanding the Issues of Primary and Secondary Grievers
- Personal Integration: What Did I Learn From this Class?
- Resources on grief support for additional learning and referral
More classes: The Professional Program on Animal Loss and Grief Support offers a full curriculum of classes--on both helping others understand how to grieve the loss of a pet and healing from our own losses.
COMMENTS FROM PAST PARTICIPANTS
"Teresa did a wonderful job at providing very detailed information in a useable format that I could understand and apply."
"I would highly recommend this class for anyone searching for ways to be there for persons going through grief, not just over the loss of their animal." Jan E.
"Teresa was so loving and compassionate in her delivery. A true role model for all of us. I eagerly looked forward to each and every class. " Penny P.
"I feel so much more confident to help someone thru a loss and to deal with some of my own grief I've buried. I would highly recommend this class." Terra K.
"All sessions were extremely enjoyable and informative. It was a privilege to listen to Teresa speak on this subject. Her compassion, empathy, sensitivity and beautiful energy came across vividly, and served to remind me that the most important thing in this work is not the words, tools and techniques used, but the genuine heartfelt caring expressed. Handouts were fabulous! Well presented, and lots of clear, concise, thought-provoking useful info." Pat S.
"This class should be required for life!! Huge amount of wonderful information to help you be a sensitive and loving person for someone who is experience loss. This was one of the best classes I've taken yet. " Penny P.